As Kate continues to decline, I expect that we will experience more sad moments than we have had in the past. I hope that I will be able to say that we still have happy ones as well. That is certainly true right now. Two days ago, for example, she got up early. She seemed to be in a good mood. She did ask my name and our relationship multiple times before she got dressed. Each time I mentioned that I was her husband she was surprised but accepting.
When she was dressed, she asked if she could lie down. I told her she could and then said, “I love you.” As I said it, I remembered the old song “I Love You a Bushel and a Peck.” When I mentioned it to her, she also remembered it. Then she said, “We could sing it together.” I took out my phone and searched for the song. Then I played it through our audio system. We forgot most of the lyrics, so I pulled them up on my phone. We must have sung the song five or six times. It may have been a little silly, but it was fun. Kate really got a kick out of it. I think it also made it easier for her to get up since her already good mood got better. I just know that right after our singing, I said, “Now, I’d like to take you to lunch.” She got right up.
We had another Happy Moment at dinner that night. We were having dinner at Chalupas when I mentioned how nice it was that we enjoy the simple pleasure of being together. She picked up on that and began a conversation about how fortunate we are in so many ways. From there, she gravitated to talking about the people who are not as fortunate as we are in our marriage and many other aspects of our lives.
I enjoy hearing her speak so naturally. She didn’t seem to have a care in the world. She is often concerned about what she should or shouldn’t do or say. She isn’t that way a lot of the time, but she does frequently ask me to watch her or to keep her from doing “something wrong.” She knows she does a lot of things that aren’t right. It’s good to see her at moments when doesn’t have those concerns. They make for quite a few Happy Moments for both of us.
