We had our usual lunch at Bluefish today. We had missed last week because of our trip to Fort Worth for her cousin’s funeral. I had thought about calling our server to let her know we wouldn’t be there but was caught up in all the preparations for the trip. I wondered if she would be worried. It turns out she was. She told us she has a number of customers who come in on a regular basis, but we are the most predictable. She knows about Kate’s diagnosis and wondered if we had run into a problem of some kind. (I tell most of our servers about Kate. I feel it is important for them to know in case something unusual happens. The most common thing is getting lost on her return from the restroom.) Anyway, our server was relieved that we were all right and gave us our usual hugs as we came in and when we left. The only other server who does that is the one at the restaurant where we eat on Sunday.
Kate didn’t talk at all on the way to and from Bluefish. Nor did she say anything during lunch except in response to our server, and that was minimal. As soon as we returned to the house, she brushed her teeth and then got into bed. It’s been almost an hour and a half, and she is still in bed. This would not have been unusual two or three years ago, but since that time she has not been napping until very recently, especially since we got back from Fort Worth. I have noted previously that she has recently shown other signs of decline. I can’t help wondering if we are in for something more in the upcoming months. We have been fortunate that her decline has been so gradual up to this point, but I am well aware that this can change at any time. Two friends who have lost their spouses in the past year to Alzheimer’s after they experienced a more sudden change that occurred in the last months of their lives.
I had washed clothes this morning and put them in the dryer before we left for lunch. When Kate started her nap, I put on a Chris Botti album, Impressions, and folded the clothes. As I have mentioned before, music has always been important to me. That has been especially true since Kate’s diagnosis. I find it very comforting. It’s also been a pleasant way to make a few last-minute edits to my blog for its launch tomorrow.
