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A Bump in the Road

Many people use the word “journey” when talking about Alzheimer’s and other dementias. I sometimes hesitate to use the term because it seems trite. On the other hand, it really captures a relevant aspect of “Living with Alzheimer’s.” It connotes something that is long in duration and involves a variety of experiences. How apt that is in our case.

Like so many other aspects of life, there are things we expect and those that surprise us. This past Monday we got a surprise, one that potentially may have lasting consequences. Kate had a mild stroke.

We almost always have good nights. That was true Sunday night. We spent the evening watching YouTube videos. A lot of them were choral favorites like “Danny Boy” and “Shenandoah.”

We had a very nice Monday morning as well. She awoke around 8:00, and I spent almost the entire morning beside her in bed. I turned on an assortment of YouTube videos focusing mostly on Broadway favorites. She wasn’t talkative. That’s normal at that time of day, but it was obvious that she was enjoying the music. Several times she commented that it was “wonderful.” I told her how much I enjoyed being with her. She indicated the same to me. Off and on we held hands. The day was off to a good start.

Not long before the caregiver arrived, she went back to sleep, and I went to Rotary. The caregiver let her sleep until 1:00 when she got her up and gave her something to eat. She said that Kate didn’t finish her meal. She kept chewing but didn’t swallow.

After getting back from Rotary but before reaching our apartment, I received a call from an old college friend. When I walked in, I greeted Kate the way I usually do. She gave me a big smile, and I told her I would finish my call and come back to her. About twenty minutes later, I got down on my knees beside her recliner, enabling me to look directly into her eyes, and told her how glad I was to see her.

She didn’t say much, but she looked pleased that I was there. She smiled. As I continued to talk to her, she closed her eyes, and her breathing slowed down. I had a flashback to being with my father and Kate’s mother when they died. Kate looked the same way. I felt she was drifting away from me. I mentioned that to the caregiver. She had the same thought. I told the caregiver that I didn’t want to lose her, but it would be a beautiful way for her to leave me. The precious moments we had the night before and that morning passed through my mind, and I said, “I love you. I always have. I always will.” To me, it seemed like she was trying to respond, but nothing came out.

I called her doctor. His office is in the building next door, one of the advantages of being in this retirement community. He and his nurse came over. By this time, she was in a deep sleep, but her vitals were normal. He checked her eyes. They appeared all right. He lifted each arm and found that her right arm was completely limp while the left was normal. He said he couldn’t be sure but thought she had a stroke. He asked whether I wanted to take her to the hospital. We talked briefly. He and I agreed that it wouldn’t be good to put her through the hospital routine, so we kept her here.

She slept well except for two events, one around 9:30 when her breathing seemed labored. I called the doctor. I described what was going on and let him listen to her breathing. He didn’t think it was serious and suggested that I continue to let her rest. She fell asleep while we were talking. Around 11:30, she screamed and held her right hand against her stomach and then her chest. I felt her left arm. It was warm. I checked the right arm, and it was cold. I pulled the sheet and bedspread over her arm. I didn’t hear a sound after that until the next morning while I was in the bathroom getting ready for the day. She screamed again, but, whatever the cause, it was over before I got to her bedside.

The next morning the doctor returned to check on her. He didn’t notice anything new except that the muscles in her left arm were twitching. He didn’t say that indicated anything special, but I have since learned that this kind of reaction is not unusual for people who have had a stroke. That occurs when the damage to the brain occurs in the part that controls body movement. That might also explain the limpness in her right arm and the fact that her eyes tend to focus to her left.

I told him I felt this was might be a dramatic change in our lives. He acknowledged the likelihood of that though he stopped short of saying she wouldn’t recover. That’s what I expected him to say. He also said that we might observe periods of improvement mixed with more of what we are seeing now.

Since then, she’s been making a little progress each day. Until yesterday morning, she was asleep most of the time, waking periodically for just a few moments, but she has regained some of the strength in her right arm. For a period of time on Thursday, she was more alert although she didn’t speak. She is also eating and drinking much less than normal.

Yesterday (the fourth day since the stroke) was her best day by far. She was awake an hour at one stretch that morning. That’s the longest she had been awake since the stroke. She smiled more and laughed. She responded to several YouTube music videos, mouthing the words to “Battle Hymn of the Republic” with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. She was especially animated during the chorus, clearly remembering the word “Glory” in “Glory, Glory, Hallelujah.”

She’s coming to life again. I know we may see some permanent damage. My biggest concern is her ability to speak. Aphasia was already a problem, something often experienced by people who have strokes. Still, I am hopeful we may eventually be able to get out for our afternoon ice cream as well as our nightly dinner in the dining room. At any rate, I think that’s a reasonable goal. Time will tell.

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“Focus on the Person, Not the Dementia”

I continue to believe that the most profound information I’ve learned during Kate’s journey with Alzheimer’s came from The Dementia Handbook by Judy Cornish. She emphasizes that “all is not lost with dementia” and points out that while rational thought is lost, people with dementia continue to experience the world through their senses. That enables them to appreciate and enjoy many pleasures of life.

I have made that an essential piece of knowledge in my care for Kate, and it has provided years of joy while living with Alzheimer’s. The quote in the title above comes from one of Cornish’s posts on Twitter. It caught my attention as useful advice, and I’ve discovered numerous ways to apply it. The most typical example is when I return to the apartment after lunch or running errands.

In almost every case, I find Kate sitting quietly in her recliner with her eyes closed while the caregiver sits across from her looking at something on her phone. When I come through the door, I say, “Hello, I’m home!” She often responds with a greeting of her own and gives me a smile as I rest on my knees beside her. I tell her how glad I am to see her. She generally beams. Her whole mood changes in those few moments. It just took focusing on her and conveying how important she is to me.

Here are other examples of how it worked with Kate over the past few days.

Kate’s mornings have always been the most troublesome part of the day. Not all of them are that way, but she usually gets a slow start. That means she doesn’t talk much, and, frequently, she doesn’t want me to talk either. Sunday morning was one of those. She appeared to be bothered by something.

I went through my normal routine. I tell her how glad I am to see her and how special she is to me. On good days, that’s a real ice breaker. On other days, like Sunday, it falls flat.

I didn’t push her. I know from experience that doesn’t work. I got her morning meds and gave her something to drink. That went well. Then I played her Love Changes Everything album and got in bed beside her. I didn’t say anything for a good while and then commented on how much I liked the music. Then I told her I also liked being with her. She smiled, the first affirmation I had received that morning. She was coming around.

That led to a very nice conversation before she drifted off to sleep. She was half asleep when the caregiver arrived at noon. Sometimes that makes it easier to get her dressed and up for the day. This was not one of those times. She protested more than she has in several months.

I can’t be sure, but this may have been related to the fact that the caregiver is new. She began in January, and Kate hasn’t reached a comfort level with her. There are two problems as I see it. First, she doesn’t have as much experience as our other caregivers. Second, she is very quiet. She’s been here fewer than ten times, but she hasn’t said much to me or to Kate except when I have asked direct questions. In addition, she speaks softly and wears a mask, so Kate and I usually have to ask her to repeat herself before we know what she has said.

Given Kate’s mood, I felt that it was better that I stay home instead of going out for lunch. In fact, I remained at home the entire time the caregiver was here. That led to some good things because Kate wasn’t getting any attention from the caregiver and looked bored. I took a seat beside her while she was in her recliner and read The Velveteen Rabbit to her. She perked up right away. I followed that by reading about one of her grandfathers from one of her photobooks.

Things were going well, and I suggested we go for ice cream. While we were out, she had a delusion and hallucinations that disturbed her. Her mood shifted. We went back to the apartment. I spent some time with her while holding her hand and talking to her in a comforting way. I assured her that I would take care of several specific things that troubled her. She became less worried, but she wasn’t as cheerful as she often is at this time of day. I wondered how things would go at dinner. That is usually a good time for her, and it went well except that she wasn’t as talkative as usual.

The day picked up after the caregiver left, and Kate was in bed. She was very relaxed and happy. We talked a little about how comfortable we felt when it was just the two of us. I treasure times like that. She was tired and slept for an hour while I watched one of the NFL playoff games.

Our daughter called as she was waking, and we talked for almost forty-five minutes. Kate often has trouble with phone calls but did very well with this one. It was a beautiful end to a day of ups and downs.

It was a day that reinforced how the personal touch makes a difference in the way Kate feels. It doesn’t prevent delusions, hallucinations, or any of the other typical signs of Alzheimer’s, but it goes a long way toward relieving her anxiety or elevating her mood. That’s exactly what happened that day. Now, let’s look at another example that involves a caregiver.

One of my problems with our in-home care is that Kate doesn’t get this same kind of attention from any of her caregivers. I have accepted the fact that their training focuses heavily on things like bathing patients, dressing them, and using a lift to transfer them from bed to chair and back again along with a host of related things. Everything they do is important, and I don’t have the skill to do the things they do. On the other hand, they tend to focus on their basic skills and neglect treating Kate as a person.

That is why I feel that focusing on her as a person is my primary responsibility. As her husband, I’m in the best position to do this. I love her, and I do my best to express that love in every way that I can.

Having said that, we had an experience with a new caregiver on Monday that offers another example of the importance of having a personal connection with Kate. It also encouraged me to discover a caregiver who has the personality and skill to give Kate the attention she needs.

The new caregiver came to us for the first time one day last week. The agency had alerted me that she had not had much experience. I found that to be true, but she was more personable than most of the others, and I felt comfortable leaving for lunch. Before leaving, I put on a playlist of music I thought Kate would enjoy. I also explained to the caregiver that music had been very important to us. She told me it was important to her as well. She is active in a church choir and has written and recorded a few songs.

When I returned to the apartment, she was sitting in a chair beside Kate and the two of them had been singing along with a Peter, Paul, and Mary album. I can’t tell you how much it meant to me to see Kate singing with her. To the best of my knowledge, that has never happened with another caregiver. It made a big impression on me, and I was delighted when she was back on Monday.

That experience was a good one as well. This time they were in a conversation when I returned from lunch. I spent a little time checking email, and they continued to talk. It was truly remarkable and another great example of the difference it makes when someone is able to “Focus on the person, not the dementia.”

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Ups and Downs While Living with Alzheimer’s

My last post was upbeat, and for very good reasons. Kate had had a string of very good days. I should be clear that her Alzheimer’s has not improved. Her memory is no better than it was. Nor is her aphasia. She still experiences delusions that sometimes cause her to be afraid or annoyed, and sometimes she has periods when she does not recognize me at all.

The big change was in the comfort she feels when we go about our daily routine. That includes getting her dressed and out of bed each day as well as the reverse process that occurs every evening. She is no longer physically or verbally combative with her caregivers and me during these moments. She is also less vocal when we take her across minor bumps in the hallways when we go for ice cream and dinner.

Overall, she’s been happier, and less afraid of everything that has bothered her in the past. The good times continued until two days ago. It may have started the afternoon before when she had an unusually grouchy spell and yelled at the caregiver and me. We got through that and dinner without any serious problems, but she was not as cheerful with friends we met during this time.

I wasn’t sure what we might be in for that night. Fortunately, she began to calm down as we got her ready for bed. It turned out we had a very good night. I think she was worn out.

The next day, she was awake around 9:00. It was one of those times when she didn’t recognize me at all. She was also obsessively talkative. As in the past, what she said was rooted in delusions and hallucinations. I thought it would help if I got in bed beside her and tried to comfort her. She wanted me to leave.

I left for a short time. When I returned, I turned on some music that I hoped would be soothing. I got in bed beside her with my laptop and began to check email. A few minutes later, she apparently recognized me because she reached out to take my hand. I was with her the rest of the morning. During that time, she talked continuously, often pointing to places in the room for me to see people or things that were not there.

I was with her when the caregiver arrived shortly after noon. I briefed her on the situation and went downstairs for lunch. When I returned, the caregiver had fed her and put her in her recliner. She was still talking. I tried to calm her for about thirty minutes before she had a doctor’s appointment at 2:00. She relaxed somewhat, but she didn’t stop talking.

When the doctor and his nurse arrived, I answered the door and stepped outside to explain what was going on and that Kate was very different than she had been for their previous appointments. Then we went inside where we went through the regular routine as well as we could while she talked. She never responded to them verbally.

The doctor asked if I had given her a sedative (Seroquel). I told him I hadn’t but would have if it were bedtime. I indicated my preference was to make an effort to relax her and play music that I know she likes. I thought, however, that it would be a night for the sedative.

After they left, I spent almost an hour on my knees beside her in the recliner. I listened to her and responded to her in a very calm manner. She became somewhat more relaxed but was far from normal.

The caregiver gave her an afternoon snack. She stop talking for a while but started again when she was finished. She was somewhat more relaxed. I experimented with a variety of music including “Bushel and a Peck” and “If You’re Happy and You Know It.” She continued to relax, and I asked if she would like some ice cream. She said she would, and we prepared to leave. As we went down the hall to the elevator, she became agitated. We returned to the apartment. I also chose to eat in the apartment rather than go to the dining room for dinner.

She calmed down for dinner. After that we still had time to sit on the balcony for a while before the caregiver left, but I thought it was better to get her into bed. That turned out to be a good idea. She was worn out and soon went to sleep.

She slept for about an hour while I watched the evening news. When she woke up, we watched two symphonies on YouTube. She was at ease the entire time. We talked very little, but it was clear that she was all right. It was a happy ending to a trying day.

Yesterday, she was very tired. We didn’t get ice cream, but she was alert for dinner. When we returned to the apartment, she went right to sleep and is still sleeping. We had a very good run for three weeks. I’m grateful for that and suspect we won’t have a repeat. I am, however, confident that we will have many more special moments in the days ahead.

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Music or a Sedative?

Kate’s doctor prescribed a mild dose of Seroquel (25mg tablet) to control her combativeness after her release from the hospital last November. I used it twice and didn’t like the way it affected her. Since then, I used it once before a dentist’s appointment and another time before a podiatrist’s appointment. It wasn’t until two weeks ago that I used it again to get her to stop talking and go to sleep.

A few nights ago, Kate’s talking woke me up around 1:00 a.m. I’m not sure whether she was awake or talking in her sleep, but it was very much like the talking she exhibited over the past few weeks. She was talking in a loud voice to someone whose presence was an hallucination. At first, I tried to ignore it, but then I tried speaking to her softly and encouraged her to go back to sleep. That wasn’t successful.

My next thought was to try Seroquel. I felt sure that would work, but I try to avoid using it as often as I can. I decided to try music first. If that didn’t work, I could always resort to the sedative.

Since “Edelweiss” has worked before, I put my head on her shoulder and started singing it very softly. To my amazement, she stopped talking almost immediately. Then I hummed it. She was quiet, but I wanted to make sure she was soundly asleep. I reached for my phone on the end table and played “Edelweiss” on the audio system. I set it to repeat twenty times. She didn’t wake up until the next morning, and I was asleep long before the last note was played. Music rescued me once again.

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Update on Kate’s Talkative Days

After several posts between September 30 and October 5, Kate’s talkative days settled back into what had been our previous normal routine. That changed again this week.

On Monday, she was awake about 6:45. That changed my morning routine, but it was well worth it. I can’t recall her having a better day. She was far from wide awake, but her smile conveyed a cheerfulness that was to last until she went to sleep that night. I took care of her morning meds, something to drink, and her morning snack before the caregiver arrived, and I left for Rotary. I spent most of the morning beside her in bed and enjoyed every minute. We talked and enjoyed music videos on YouTube.

When I returned from Rotary and the grocery store, she, Adrienne, and I went out for ice cream. Since it’s not as hot as it was during the summer, we sat on a deck outside overlooking a beautifully landscaped area and remained there until going to the dining room for an early dinner.

It was a day when Kate seemed almost “unflappable.” The only things that seemed to trouble (bother? frighten?) her were a few bumps while in her wheelchair as we went out that afternoon. The only problem I encountered that day (and it’s a minor one) was that she stepped up her talkativeness at dinner and afterwards. At 9:30, I could see that she wasn’t ready to stop, and I resorted to Seroquel. I’m not sure how quickly it worked because she was still talking when I went to sleep. I awoke at 10:30, and she was out after having been up a long time.

I admit to having mixed emotions regarding my giving her a sedative to get her to sleep. Although she was quite talkative, she was relatively calm and certainly happy. Since she is quiet so much of the time, I really enjoy hearing her talk even though most of what she says makes little sense to me and is rooted in delusions and hallucinations. On the other hand, I don’t enjoy it as much when it encroaches on our normal bedtime. I’ve spoken with her doctor who says that the dose I am giving her is very mild, but I plan to speak with him again, probably at her next appointment in early November.

It was no surprise that she slept until noon on Tuesday and was tired the rest of the day. Her eyes were closed most of the time while she ate dinner. She perked up a little after dinner but went to sleep shortly after Adrienne left and slept through the night.

Yesterday, she was awake early and fully rested. Once again, she was cheerful, talkative, and unflappable. It was a day that easily matched the great day we had on Monday. Two highlights stand out. Both occurred on the deck outside the ice cream shop during the afternoon.

The first was quite a surprise. Adrienne feeds the ice cream to Kate but stepped inside to get a drink. Kate then picked up her spoon and scooped a bite of ice cream for herself. On several occasions, she has picked up food in her hands and eaten it (something we encourage), but this was the first time she had picked up a spoon or fork and fed herself. Ultimately, Adrienne took over. It was difficult for Kate to get more than a small bit of ice cream, but it was good to see her try.

A woman came out of her apartment onto her deck and down the stairs for an afternoon walk. We had spoken to her on one of our previous visits. This time I got up and introduced Kate, Adrienne, and myself. When she returned from her walk, I invited her to join us at our table.

We had a very pleasant conversation for the next twenty minutes or so. We were interested to know that, by chance, she had been given an apartment that was her mother’s forty years before. We discovered that she knows quite a few people at our church, and I knew her sister-in-law.

During our conversation, I was struck by the fact that Kate seemed to be picking up on some of the things we were saying. At one point, she stopped me and said, “You’re talking too fast.” When our neighbor told us goodbye, Kate told her goodbye. Like feeding herself the ice cream, this was a little thing, but it is not typical. Often, Kate doesn’t speak when someone speaks to her, so I am really pleased when she does.

Like so many other things, I can’t explain why she has such good days. It is as if she is simply in a good mood on some days and feels more secure than on other days. I only know that these days bring me a special sense of joy, something I didn’t expect at the time of her diagnosis 10 ½ years ago. That’s one more reason for me to be grateful.

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Back to a Typical Day

Kate’s first experience with incessant talkativeness occurred a week ago today. It was one of three days of extreme talking. Each day was followed by a day of rest. If the pattern had persisted, yesterday would have been a day of talking, but it wasn’t. Her caregiver and I were happy.

She awoke about 11:15 in line with what is normal for her. She was in a good mood although a little sleepy, again, something normal. I took care of her morning meds and gave her some juice and a snack before the caregiver arrived. Then, I left for Rotary.

When I returned, she had had lunch and was relaxed in her recliner. She was quite calm and not talking. When I approached her, she had a smile on her face. I told her I was glad to see her, and she said the same about seeing me.

They were giving flu shots that afternoon, and I decided to take advantage of the opportunity for both of us to be vaccinated. First, I went to see what it looked like and discovered there was about a 30-minute wait. I completed forms for both of us. Then I went back to tell the caregiver it might be better if they remained in the apartment until nearer the time for us to be called.

When I got back downstairs, they had moved more quickly than expected. I rushed back to the apartment and brought Kate and the caregiver with me. We were called in right away but had another 10-minute wait before someone came to give the shots. I didn’t think Kate would have any problems, but I wasn’t sure. I was relieved that it went smoothly.

We returned to the apartment for another thirty minutes before the dining room opened at 4:30. We have been going early and sitting in a corner of a room adjoining the main dining room. We’ve eaten in more public areas of the dining room in the past, but I prefer the more private area in case Kate should say or do something that might be disturbing to others. That hasn’t happened often, but her loud voice gets attention. As usual, she enjoyed every bite of her food and was in a pleasant mood the entire time.

After dinner, we spent almost an hour on the balcony. While we were there, Kate began talking. The caregiver and I both wondered if this might not be the start of something we couldn’t stop. Once in bed, however, she began to relax. That is not unusual. She has often rested an hour or more after getting into bed.

While she rested, I took a shower. Kate was awake when I finished, and I got in the bed beside her. For more than an hour, we lay there talking. We talked mostly about our relationship and how we felt about each other. It was another very special moment at the end of a day that had gone well and is more typical of our days than those of the past week.

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A Day of Rest

It’s too soon to say Kate has established a new pattern of behavior, but there was a bit of consistency the past few days. Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday she was very talkative for significant portions of the day. Tuesday was the most extreme. She talked almost non-stop from 8:30 in the morning until about 9:00 when I gave her a tablet of melatonin. That worked, but I gave her a sedative (Seroquel) on Thursday and Saturday nights.

It was no surprise that each of the days that followed her talkativeness and agitation she was very tired. She slept late and rested most of the afternoon as well. Yesterday was a good day of recovery. She was tired most of the day until dinner time. By then, she was quite rested, and we went to the dining room for dinner.

After the caregiver left, we relaxed in bed. I watched part of the Buccaneers/Patriots game with the sound muted and music playing for Kate. It was a welcome moment for the two of us after the past few days. I hope we find our way back to something a bit more normal in the upcoming week.

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More on Kate’s Talkativeness

For the third time in the past five days, Kate was unusually talkative yesterday. I’ve welcomed some of that. That has been especially true during the morning when she has waked up much earlier than usual. I’ve enjoyed spending that time with her. The bulk of her conversation has involved delusions and hallucinations, but she has been happy and seemed at ease. That was true during the entire day. During the afternoon, we went to the café for ice cream. After Kate had finished eating, we went out on the deck beside the café. It is shady in the afternoon, and the temperature was so pleasant that we spent an hour there.

As on previous days this week, the pace of her talking began to pick up. She talked constantly while we were on the deck. We went straight to the dining room for dinner. I was somewhat uneasy because Kate was talking so much and can be loud at times, but the meal captured her attention. She ate well and seemed relaxed.

Upon our return to the apartment, we got her ready for bed. She was very cooperative, something that has become the norm in recent weeks. She began to talk a little more after the caregiver left, but she was relatively calm. Over the course of the next hour and a half, the pace of her talking picked up. At 9:00, it was obvious that she wasn’t going to be ready for bed anytime soon. I mentioned that I was getting tired and would soon get ready for bed. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but she conveyed that she wasn’t ready at all.

I prefer not to use Seroquel unless I have to, so I got her a melatonin. I muted the sound of the TV and turned on some soft music she likes. Forty minutes later, she showed no signs of sleepiness. At 10:00, I crushed a tablet of Seroquel and gave it to her in a spoonful of yogurt. I’ve only used Seroquel four or five times, and it usually takes effect within twenty minutes. An hour later, she was still going strong. I gave her another Seroquel and turned on a YouTube video of Andre Rieu and his orchestra accompanied by a very large contingent (at least 50) of brass instruments playing a very soft rendition of “Nearer My God to Thee.” I hummed along with the music. For a few moments, Kate eased up on her talking. She picked right up when the music ended. I switched to a recording of “Edelweiss” and hummed along with that. She started humming too. She also began to relax. I turned out the lights, and she was asleep by 11:30, almost two hours later than usual.

As I prepare to upload this post, it is close to 10:00 a.m. the next morning. She slept through the night and has shown no signs of waking. If she follows the pattern of the past few days, she will probably be tired and will catch up on her rest today. I’m still not ready to make any predictions. What will be will be.

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Follow-up on the Two Preceding Posts

We had no problem with Kate’s incessant talking yesterday. She was quite tired. In fact, I wanted to take her for ice cream during the afternoon, but she preferred resting. She perked up a little at dinner but never displayed any of the agitation we observed on Tuesday and Thursday.

We had a very peaceful evening together watching music videos on YouTube. It was like the mid-week agitation had never occurred. No melatonin or Seroquel was needed, and I hope we won’t need them again anytime soon. I vote for “Never.”

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Addendum to Previous Post: Time Did Tell

In yesterday’s post, I talked about my looking for patterns in Kate’s behavior. I was motivated to talk about that because she had an unusually talkative day on Tuesday. She was agitated, and I resorted to melatonin to get her to sleep that night. Predictably, she was very tired the next day. Yesterday started out like a somewhat typical day except for the fact that she was awake at 8:30, several hours earlier than normal. In my final sentence, I suggested that “time will tell” if Tuesday’s talkativeness/agitation was a unique happening or the beginning of another pattern.

As it turned out, yesterday was not quite like Tuesday; however, around 3:00 p.m. she became talkative but did not appear particularly agitated. At 3:30, I left for a residents’ meeting. When I returned at 4:30, Kate was talking with agitation similar to that on Tuesday. The caregiver and I decided not to go to the dining room. I brought our dinner back to our apartment. She began to calm down a bit while she was eating.

I thought we might be home free, but she started talking again as we got her ready for bed and continued talking after the caregiver left. Before 9:00, she seemed somewhat agitated. As I had done the other night, I gave her a melatonin. It had no effect. Just before 10:00, I gave her ½ of a 25mg tablet of Seroquel (not crushed) in a spoonful of yogurt. She swallowed the yogurt and spit out the pill. (These tablets are very small, so small that I was unsure I would be able to split them when her doctor first prescribed them. I thought she might swallow it uncrushed.) Then I crushed a whole tablet and mixed it in yogurt. She took it without a problem and was asleep within twenty minutes, and, as usual, she slept through the night and is still sleeping at 9:25.

What’s in store for today? I’m not predicting. I’m just going to wait and see. She should be rested after resting all day Wednesday and sleeping well that night and last night. The focus of my attention will not be on the time she wakes, but her incessant talking during the day and especially at bedtime. By itself, talking would not be an issue. What concerns me is the agitation that makes the talking so out of control.

During the past year, Kate’s behavior has seemed like she might be experiencing sundowning. I haven’t been ready to say that is it because her symptoms haven’t always appeared in the late afternoon or early evening. One of the two occasions this week began much earlier in the day. Nevertheless, I would say that her behavior appears to match what I have interpreted as symptoms of sundowning. If so, I will probably see this again. One thing I know. Tuesday’s talkativeness was not unique. Whether or not this becomes a pattern still remains to be seen. Once again, time will tell.