I am always glad to report the Happy Moments that Kate and I have. This is only the fourth day of the new year, but we’ve had a lot of them so far. At the same time, we are experiencing sad ones as well. I can’t say that we’ve had anything as serious as this past Monday when she was confused, frightened, and experiencing delusions off and on most of the day. She has, however, experienced some of the same things periodically all week. That has been accompanied by being tired and generally lethargic.
She is still responding positively to photo books as well as the flowers and photos in our family room but with somewhat less enthusiasm than in the past. She has also seemed more dependent on me. She wants my guidance on many things. She wants to do what is right, but she doesn’t know what that is. Increasingly, she asks me where to put her napkin. At least once this week, she couldn’t understand what I meant when I said she could put it on her lap and asked me to do it for her. She more regularly needs my help with toileting, washing her hands, brushing her teeth, and showering.
On the other hand, each of us enjoys being with the other. I have actually enjoyed not having a sitter twice during the holidays because both Christmas and New Years fell on a Wednesday, a day for the sitter. Yesterday, she was very tired when we got home from lunch. I was afraid she might not be as receptive to the sitter, but that wasn’t a problem at all. She really seems to have developed a comfort level with both of the sitters, especially Mary who comes on Wednesdays and Fridays and has been with us over two years. She does ask about me (where I am and when I will return) while I am gone. She also displays varying degrees of enthusiasm when I come back. Yesterday, she was especially happy to see me.
All in all, it seems like she has not been doing as well over the past week or so. I have noted before that mornings are her most difficult time. I find that understandable since she hasn’t had any external stimulation for eight to twelve hours. She usually recovers a short time after she is up. Now she seems to be having similar experiences in the afternoon when she rests. The other night she wanted to watch the news with me. I think it overwhelmed her brain. The next thing I knew she was having a delusion.
The last few times we have looked at her photo books, she has told me she is tired and needed to rest not too far into the album. When she is resting her mind wanders, and she imagines people and situations that I am supposed to know about. She says things like, “What time will she be there?” Or “Who else will be coming?” “Who are we meeting?” I try not to ask who because she always believes I know. I give her an answer knowing that she won’t remember what I said.
Music, whether on YouTube, or our own audio system is often good for her. I think that is because she can enjoy it passively. It doesn’t require her to try to understand or remember. She simply enjoys it. She does, however, frequently ask me who is singing. That happens a lot with the YouTube videos.
I take all of these things as signs that 2020 will be a very different year for us.
