Success at the Movies

Movies have played a significant role in our entertainment. That has been especially true for the first five or six years after Kate’s diagnosis. About a year ago, that began to change when she could no longer appreciate them. I was surprised that she had enjoyed them for so long. She hasn’t been able to follow a plot for at least three or four years, perhaps longer.

Among the things I have learned about dementia is that people diagnosed with the disease retain many abilities even when their memories fade. For example, they can often read emotions of those around them. I suspect that ability has helped Kate appreciate movies that she doesn’t understand. She gets a feeling for the characters. When she likes them and the situations in which they are involved, she becomes engaged. She has a positive experience. She can also relate to people and situations that are important. For example, she liked Darkest Hour. She recognized Churchill as an important historical figure. She knew that World War II was a horrific event of our time. She could sense that the movie dealt with significant aspects of the war.

Unfortunately, I have found fewer and fewer movies that really engage her, but I keep trying. Yesterday, I had a success. Normally, the sitter would come while I attend my weekly Rotary meeting and then exercise at the Y; however, I received a call from the agency that Anita was sick. They were happy to send someone new, but I decided to skip Rotary and the Y and spend the afternoon with Kate.

Over the weekend, I had received an email from Kate’s brother, Ken. He said that he and Virginia had gone to see RBG and liked it. Sometime within the past year, I read Sisters in Law. It focused on the lives of Sandra Day O’Connor and Ruth Bader Ginsberg. I have always enjoyed biographies and found both justices to have led fascinating and inspiring lives. That and Ken’s recommendation prompted me to take advantage of a free afternoon with Kate to see the movie. I am so glad I did.

The film provides an engaging account of Ginsberg’s life and personality. Her story is an interesting one. I was especially pleased that Kate enjoyed it. As we walked out of theater, I said, “Isn’t it amazing how someone so slight in stature and so soft spoken in her own personal style could achieve such success.” Kate said, “Who is that?” I said, “Ruth Bader Ginsberg, the woman the film was about.” She said, “I want to see that film.”

What’s truly amazing is how Kate could have watched the whole movie about Ginsberg, love it, and then not recognize who I was talking about. It is a beautiful illustration of how she can enjoy a movie that she can’t understand. I hope I’ll find others that will give her an equal amount of pleasure. That keeps me happy.