Two thousand twenty-four is off to a good start. Our caregiver issue is almost solved. The first month after losing our regular Monday-Friday caregiver, we had 29 different caregivers. After ten weeks, the total is 40. That means we’ve had only 11 different caregivers in the past 6 weeks. Not only that, but the caregiver who had originally said she could work every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday had a change in her schedule that allows her to work every Thursday as well. Now, we only have to find a person to take care of Tuesday. Until then, we have different people filling in. Fortunately, most of them have been here in the past. This improvement reduces most of my stress.
More importantly, Kate has shown more improvement in recent weeks. As I have said in previous posts, this does not mean an improvement in her Alzheimer’s. It does, however, indicate that she is more at ease which is expressed in her smiles and her speech. It is still difficult to understand her, but her speech indicates that she is happy. From my perspective, that is what is most important.
I am especially pleased that our relationship remains strong. That isn’t reflected in every moment of every day. She is still very quiet on most mornings. On some mornings, she doesn’t express any recognition or interest in me. Other mornings, she does.
She expresses her feelings for me most often when I return home after being gone for a while. At other times, it is in the evening after she is in bed, and the caregiver has left. Last night was one of those.
She had already had a talkative afternoon. When we have occasions like that I generally expect that it won’t continue as we move to other activities. That was no problem last night, and we had a conversation that lasted at least an hour, perhaps a little longer. Sometimes she seems a little hyper when she is talking. This time was different. She spoke slowly and responded to what I had said. Sometimes she asked me a question, and I gave an answer that I hoped would be appropriate for the question she had asked.
During our conversation, she smiled a lot and laughed a good bit as well. It is hard for me to put our feelings into words. The best I can do is to say that we were both perfectly at ease and engaged in a conversation that meant a lot to each of us. I might say it was a beautiful bond of love that transcended her inability to say much that I could understand. I could almost imagine that it was one of those early days when we were dating. It was like each of us was enthralled by what the other was saying. She was still in late-stage Alzheimer’s that requires total care for all of her activities of daily living. For those moments, however, neither of us was mindful of that. We were, and still are, a couple in love, and Alzheimer’s has not been able to take that away from us.
Moments like this will not last forever. For now, we will enjoy every Happy Moment that comes our way.
