My previous post was almost three weeks ago. That’s the longest time between posts since I started this journal more than ten years ago. There is a good reason for this pause. I have found myself incredibly busy with preparations for the move as well getting settled in our new home. Although I had been getting rid of things for six months or more, the job wasn’t finished until ten days after we moved. I can’t say that I can relax now, but the major work is finally behind me.
I’m happy to report that my immediate reaction to being here is quite positive. I feel at home. It appears that Kate does as well. During the past two years, quite a few people have asked how I thought she would adapt. I think that’s because people are aware that change can be difficult for those with dementia. One reason I hadn’t been concerned was the trajectory of Kate’s decline at the time I decided to move. I felt by this time she would handle it well.
Two weeks before leaving, I started telling her that we were going to move. She wasn’t bothered in the least, and even expressed some interest though she never remembered my telling her. I feel sure she knew something was going on during the packing and loading of our household goods. The morning after packing I heard her talking to “someone” (an hallucination) in our bedroom. I didn’t catch all that she said, but I did here her say, “We’re going to be moving.” And that day we did. After arriving in our new apartment, I told her we were in our new home. She liked it. She seems no different than she was in our house.
For me there are lots of differences, but they are good ones. I like the size of our apartment. Even though it is smaller than what we are used to, it is not cramped. We have everything we need. Having the availability of meals is also a plus. I feel sure that I won’t be eating out as often now that it is only a short walk down the hall to pick up dinner. The wellness center’s location next door via an enclosed hallway is a big plus. That will enable me to return to my gym activities that I stopped over a year ago.
I’m especially pleased with the contact I’ve had with staff and residents. It’s a very resident-oriented place. Each of the staff members I’ve met has been dedicated to making our home as comfortable and pleasant as it can be. In addition, I know quite a few of the residents, and the ones I hadn’t known are friendly. So far, I haven’t been able to engage in any of the activities. I expect that will change as life settles down.
None of this means that I don’t face some challenges. What would life be without those? People who know me well, know that I (try to) follow a routine from the time I get up until I go to bed. Moving has upset that routine in many ways. I haven’t taken my 60-minute-plus walks since two days before the move. I haven’t learned where things are and haven’t found a number of things that I know we brought with us. This can be bothersome, but it’s not a big issue. I know it’s just a matter of time before I develop a new routine. At this stage of our lives and Kate’s Alzheimer’s, it seems like the perfect place for us.
