Yesterday was unusual in that the day began without a lot of apparent confusion. I mean that she was happy from the start and didn’t ask my name or hers or where we were the entire day. On the other hand, she experienced a good bit of confusion and frustration late in the day.
As often happens, she asked what she could do when we got home from lunch. I gave her the usual options of working on her iPad or looking at her photo books. She chose the iPad and walked over to the sofa. She asked if she could lie down. I told her that would be fine. Then she wanted to know if she could take off her shoes. Again, I told her that was fine.
This was about 2:00. She spent a little over two hours resting. I believe she was awake most of the time. At least once, it looked like she was asleep. Shortly after 4:00, she looked over at me. I asked if she would like to go out for ice cream. I was sure she would say yes, but she said no. She wanted to continue resting.
After another ten minutes, I asked if she would like for us to look through one of her photo books together. She liked that, and we spent the next forty-five minutes looking at the album of her mother’s family. This time was different. She was really working to remember who each person was as well as all the accompanying information as if she were preparing for a test. Since she was unable to remember any of these things for even a few seconds, she kept asking me to repeat what I had just told her. We spent a good ten minutes just trying to learn the names of the four members of her mother’s family whose picture was on the cover. I think we only got to move forward because I flipped to the opening page, and she focused on it. Despite the trouble she was having, we went through the entire book before I suggested we go to dinner.
After dinner, she usually wants to remain in the family room for an hour or so before going to our bedroom. Not so last night. She wanted to go directly to the bedroom where she began to work on her iPad.
She quickly ran into problems. Usually the most common problem is her getting into the store when she wants to get a new puzzle. She has a hard time remembering that all she has to do is touch one of the puzzles that are pictured. Instead, she touches a button in the top right-hand corner of the screen. That takes her to the store. This happened several times, but the bigger problem was simply figuring out how to put the pieces in their proper places.
We both became frustrated when I couldn’t explain that some pieces have a flat side that goes next to the edge that defines the area where the pieces should be placed. I was never able to get her to understand. When I tried to show her the line that makes a frame around the space where the pieces are to go, she simply couldn’t see it. This is another instance in which her vision is a major part of the problem. It was more than that, however. She couldn’t grasp that the flat side of a puzzle piece must go along the edge of the frame/border. Finally, I suggested she look at one of her photo books.
I went to the family room and brought back the “Big Sister” album. It has always been a winner. Kate’s interest begins with the cover photo. She recognized the two children as her and her brother Ken. I thought we might be off to a good start except that she didn’t comment on their smiles. They are normally the major drawing point for her.
She looked at the picture a moment. Then she asked me what she was supposed to do with it (the photo album). I said, “Just open it and look at the pictures.” She said, “How do you do that?” (She occasionally gets confused about books or magazines. She thinks they work like her iPad. Sometimes she is confused about opening her iPad as well.) I opened the book. She asked, “What do I do now?” I said, “This is a book of family photos. You just look at them and then turn the page to get other pictures.” She said, “Show me how.” I knelt down beside her chair and asked her to look at the pictures on that page. She looked, but she had a blank stare on her face. I couldn’t detect any sign of recognition or interest. It was as though all she could see was a page with a bunch of stuff on it, something I understand is a common experience for someone with dementia.
She wanted my help, and I proceeded to express the comments that she usually make when she has looked at the album on previous occasions. I was careful to talk about the smiles or the photos where there were no smiles. I identified each of the people in the pictures. As we focused on each picture, she kept wanting to touch the picture the way she touches the screen of her iPad. She couldn’t understand that the pleasure she could get from the photos was just looking at them. I tried to help her for about ten minutes before she said she was tired and suggested she might be able to understand better in the morning.
I helped her get ready for bed and put on a Barbra Streisand album that she likes. I left the room for a few minutes. When I returned, she said something about the woman. I would have thought that she was talking about Streisand because she often asks who is singing, but it sounded like she was talking about a woman who was in the house. I asked her what woman she was talking about. It was Streisand after all. She told me she had been talking to her. It is not unusual for her to ask me if I am the one singing when she hears a man’s voice. I guess she thought Streisand was in the room with her. I didn’t try to get her to explain any further.
The experiences of the day were further evidence (as though I needed it) that Kate is on a steeper decline than in the past. I was quite troubled by her difficulty with her puzzles and the photo book. These have been two great sources of entertainment for her. I am sure that working on the iPad will be a thing of the past in the upcoming weeks or months. I hope I am wrong. I am more optimistic about the photo books. As she uses the iPad less, she may experience less confusion about what to do with her photo books. In addition, I expect her interest in family will continue a long time to come.
