A Nice Way to End One Month and Begin Another

Good Morning. I hope it is as pleasant a morning for you as it is here. The sun is shining brightly, and the temperature is a little bit cooler. Sometimes days when you don’t do anything special turn out to be especially good. That was certainly true for us yesterday. I was pleased that Kate was up early. So early, in fact, that we beat the group of Catholics who come to Panera after mass. We spent an unusually long time at Panera. We were there 2 ½ hours. Not only that, but we spent the entire afternoon at home after returning from lunch. That was almost 4 ½ hours. It’s hard for me to remember a time when we spent more than 3 hours at home in one stretch (during the day, of course). It would have been when Kate used to work in the yard. During that period of time, she could easily spend as long as 4 or 5 hours working outside. That hasn’t happened in at least two years.

During our time at home, Kate worked continuously on her iPad. She does have more problems working puzzles now than in the past, but she feels comfortable asking for my help. Her biggest problem is accidentally getting into the puzzle store to buy more puzzles. The creators of the app she uses make it very easy to buy more puzzles. I do that once in a while to make sure she has a good supply, but it doesn’t mean a lot to Kate. She has her favorite puzzles and works them over and over, often repeating a puzzle immediately after completing it.

For a long time, I thought it was just completing the puzzles that was appealing to her. Recently, however, she comments a lot on the beauty of the colors. She has one puzzle in particular that she frequently points out to me. She likes the colors and the kitten in the middle of a bouquet of flowers.

Apart from getting herself into the puzzle store, the second biggest problem is her eyesight. She often loses puzzle pieces when they are on top of pieces that are already in place. I admit that sometimes the patterns make it challenging, but it is mostly her eyesight that is a problem. I often move the pieces she can’t see to the side where they are clearly visible. I’m going to buy her some reading glasses and see if that helps. She’s had plenty of them in the past, but they get lost or broken rather quickly.

There are also two other possible reasons she doesn’t see well. One of those is her cataracts. In discussions with her ophthalmologist, we have decided not to have surgery. That’s true at least for now, but the likelihood of surgery decreases as her Alzheimer’s progresses.

The other reason involves dementia itself. I don’t fully understand but people with dementia often don’t notice things that the rest of us would see easily. One of the best examples is that Kate often doesn’t notice her iPad that is in a bright red case. I bought that case to make it easy to find. She often looks right over it. It’s not that her eyesight is that poor. She has 20/60 vision. That would make reading a problem and also identifying the right puzzle piece, but not seeing larger objects lets me know there is something else going on.

Kate is awake but not up yet. I expect she will be soon. We have a new sitter coming today. She is filling in for Anita who had minor surgery last week. I’m not sure when she will be back, but I feel good about Marilyn. While she is here, I will get to Rotary and then to a United Way meeting. I’m hoping for another good day and believe it is likely to happen.