We had a nice trip home from Memphis yesterday. It was a full day. We stopped for lunch at a Cracker Barrel west of Nashville. Then we stopped in Nashville to visit with Ellen for a couple of hours. While Kate and Ellen were talking I ran over to the Courtyard Inn where we had stayed last Friday night. I had left my backpack with camera and supply of medications. I also neglected to clean out the closet. I left my belt as well as a sweater set and khaki slacks of Kate’s. As we came into Knoxville, we stopped for dinner. It was just about 7:30 when we got home, 11 hours after leaving Jesse’s house. Kate stayed awake the entire time. She often closes her eyes even if she doesn’t sleep. This time her eyes were awake the whole time.
Today she has been quite tired. This is the day for us to attend the Shepherd’s Center. Our first class begins at 9:00. Kate had gotten up as I came back from a morning walk. She had a glass of apple juice with her medications. Then she went back to bed. At 8:00 am, I went in to let her know we would need to leave in 45 minutes. She was quite groggy. I asked her if she still wanted to go. She did and got up. She came into the kitchen and got some yogurt. Then she went back to her room to get ready. I checked on her at 8:30. She wasn’t ready. She got a little irritated that I was rushing her. I backed off and decided to let her take her time. A few minutes before 9:30, she came into the kitchen where I was working on my computer. I asked if she were ready. She nodded that she was. Knowing that the Holocaust class had started at 9:00 and that it would take 15 minutes for us to get there, I told her the Holocaust class had already begun but that we could take a few minutes to stop by Panera and get a muffin. Then we could catch the other two classes. She was disappointed and said, “That’s the class I really wanted to go to. Was it my fault?” I looked at her. Before I could say anything, she said, “Why didn’t you make me get ready?” I told her I had tried.
We went to Panera and she seemed all right except that she seemed very tired. We sat in on the first class and then went to the second one on classic movies. When we arrived the teacher was not there. We took a seat. A gentleman who had been in the previous class with us sat next to her. I started a conversation with him. Kate got up and left the room. I assumed she was going to the rest room. Shortly after that, the teacher arrived and set up the DVD. Then she started the movie. I got up to check on Kate who hadn’t returned. I looked around in the hallway outside our classroom but didn’t see her. I walked down the hall and found her in a room that had a variety of books and other things. I told her the class was beginning. She came along with me. We went back to our seats. During the class, she appeared to be bored. She was looking around the room most of the time. We were watching The Americanization of Emily starring James Garner and Julie Andrews. We had watched part of it last week. At one point when Julie Andrews appeared on the screen she said, “She reminds me so much of Julie Andrews.” I told her it was Julie. She said, “I thought so.” I tried to imagine what was going through her mind as we watched the film. It must be so mystifying not to be able to follow what’s going on, what the teacher is saying, etc. She is working so hard understand the world around her.
As we were walking to the car, she said, “I really like old movies.” It was obvious that she derived some element of pleasure even though she didn’t understand much of what was happening.
On the way to lunch she closed her eyes. She looked very tired. When we sat down at a booth at the restaurant, she closed her eyes again and leaned her head on her hand with her elbow on the table. She looked so forlorn.
When we left the restaurant, I told her I would take her to Lowe’s. She was pleased. Then we got a call from an electrician who was coming out to the house to fix a light in Kate’s closet; so we went home. I told her I would take her after the electrician left. When he was finished, she was in bed resting. I asked her about Lowe’s. She said she would like to go later. That was over an hour ago. She is still resting.
This makes me think that the trip demanded more of her than I thought. I’ve heard many older people say it takes a while to rest up after their children leave or after a trip. Perhaps this is what Kate is experiencing. Life just wears her out.
