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A Bump in the Road

Many people use the word “journey” when talking about Alzheimer’s and other dementias. I sometimes hesitate to use the term because it seems trite. On the other hand, it really captures a relevant aspect of “Living with Alzheimer’s.” It connotes something that is long in duration and involves a variety of experiences. How apt that is in our case.

Like so many other aspects of life, there are things we expect and those that surprise us. This past Monday we got a surprise, one that potentially may have lasting consequences. Kate had a mild stroke.

We almost always have good nights. That was true Sunday night. We spent the evening watching YouTube videos. A lot of them were choral favorites like “Danny Boy” and “Shenandoah.”

We had a very nice Monday morning as well. She awoke around 8:00, and I spent almost the entire morning beside her in bed. I turned on an assortment of YouTube videos focusing mostly on Broadway favorites. She wasn’t talkative. That’s normal at that time of day, but it was obvious that she was enjoying the music. Several times she commented that it was “wonderful.” I told her how much I enjoyed being with her. She indicated the same to me. Off and on we held hands. The day was off to a good start.

Not long before the caregiver arrived, she went back to sleep, and I went to Rotary. The caregiver let her sleep until 1:00 when she got her up and gave her something to eat. She said that Kate didn’t finish her meal. She kept chewing but didn’t swallow.

After getting back from Rotary but before reaching our apartment, I received a call from an old college friend. When I walked in, I greeted Kate the way I usually do. She gave me a big smile, and I told her I would finish my call and come back to her. About twenty minutes later, I got down on my knees beside her recliner, enabling me to look directly into her eyes, and told her how glad I was to see her.

She didn’t say much, but she looked pleased that I was there. She smiled. As I continued to talk to her, she closed her eyes, and her breathing slowed down. I had a flashback to being with my father and Kate’s mother when they died. Kate looked the same way. I felt she was drifting away from me. I mentioned that to the caregiver. She had the same thought. I told the caregiver that I didn’t want to lose her, but it would be a beautiful way for her to leave me. The precious moments we had the night before and that morning passed through my mind, and I said, “I love you. I always have. I always will.” To me, it seemed like she was trying to respond, but nothing came out.

I called her doctor. His office is in the building next door, one of the advantages of being in this retirement community. He and his nurse came over. By this time, she was in a deep sleep, but her vitals were normal. He checked her eyes. They appeared all right. He lifted each arm and found that her right arm was completely limp while the left was normal. He said he couldn’t be sure but thought she had a stroke. He asked whether I wanted to take her to the hospital. We talked briefly. He and I agreed that it wouldn’t be good to put her through the hospital routine, so we kept her here.

She slept well except for two events, one around 9:30 when her breathing seemed labored. I called the doctor. I described what was going on and let him listen to her breathing. He didn’t think it was serious and suggested that I continue to let her rest. She fell asleep while we were talking. Around 11:30, she screamed and held her right hand against her stomach and then her chest. I felt her left arm. It was warm. I checked the right arm, and it was cold. I pulled the sheet and bedspread over her arm. I didn’t hear a sound after that until the next morning while I was in the bathroom getting ready for the day. She screamed again, but, whatever the cause, it was over before I got to her bedside.

The next morning the doctor returned to check on her. He didn’t notice anything new except that the muscles in her left arm were twitching. He didn’t say that indicated anything special, but I have since learned that this kind of reaction is not unusual for people who have had a stroke. That occurs when the damage to the brain occurs in the part that controls body movement. That might also explain the limpness in her right arm and the fact that her eyes tend to focus to her left.

I told him I felt this was might be a dramatic change in our lives. He acknowledged the likelihood of that though he stopped short of saying she wouldn’t recover. That’s what I expected him to say. He also said that we might observe periods of improvement mixed with more of what we are seeing now.

Since then, she’s been making a little progress each day. Until yesterday morning, she was asleep most of the time, waking periodically for just a few moments, but she has regained some of the strength in her right arm. For a period of time on Thursday, she was more alert although she didn’t speak. She is also eating and drinking much less than normal.

Yesterday (the fourth day since the stroke) was her best day by far. She was awake an hour at one stretch that morning. That’s the longest she had been awake since the stroke. She smiled more and laughed. She responded to several YouTube music videos, mouthing the words to “Battle Hymn of the Republic” with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. She was especially animated during the chorus, clearly remembering the word “Glory” in “Glory, Glory, Hallelujah.”

She’s coming to life again. I know we may see some permanent damage. My biggest concern is her ability to speak. Aphasia was already a problem, something often experienced by people who have strokes. Still, I am hopeful we may eventually be able to get out for our afternoon ice cream as well as our nightly dinner in the dining room. At any rate, I think that’s a reasonable goal. Time will tell.

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A Victory with Sound of Music

Kate and I have always enjoyed movies. They became an especially important part of our lives after her diagnosis. Gradually, it became difficult for her to understand the plot and follow much of the action. I was about to give up on movies when we saw two that she enjoyed in 2018. One of them was Won’t You Be My Neighbor about Mr. Rogers’ television program. The other was RBG about Ruth Bader Ginsburg. We saw the Mr. Rogers movie at least four times and the Ginsburg film two or three times. I’ve had little success with movies since then.

Periodically, I’ve tried them at home with no success. It’s very hard for her to focus on them. On the other hand, we’ve had great success with music videos on YouTube and the Twenty-fifth-anniversary concert of Les Miserables. We watched the latter over and over for several months after I first got it. A lot of the non-music elements of the concert were unimportant to her although she did respond to individual singers as they sang their solos. The same is true of the other music videos we watch on YouTube. It’s really the music itself that catches her attention.

Last year, I bought several DVDs with the film versions of Broadway musicals. I thought she might enjoy them, but there is too much dialog between the songs to keep her attention. Last week, I decided to try again with Sound of Music. At first, I thought I would simply fast forward to the songs, but then I took a different approach. I narrated the movie for her, explaining what was going on and the emotions the characters were feeling. Having taken one of the Sound of Music tours on a visit to Salzburg years ago. I also reminded her of the places we had seen when we were there. I was pleased when she seemed to be engaged from the beginning, but how long would it last? The answer? Until it was time for us to turn out the lights.

The following night we began where we left off – with the scene outside the gazebo where von Trapp and Maria express their love for each other. Kate didn’t say a word, but she was touched by it. She took my hand and held it firmly. It was a beautiful moment for the two of us.

I know that she didn’t understand many of the things that happened during the movie, but it was clear that she experienced the same feelings that millions of other viewers have had while watching this movie.

After that success, I risked being disappointed by watching it again this week. It worked again. The first night, she enjoyed it just as much as last week, but she was tired last night. We’ll finish it tonight. I’m encouraged by her response. She’s always liked My Fair Lady and Annie. I might try one of them sometime soon.

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Ending 2021 on a High Note

Change has become a normal part of our lives since Kate’s diagnosis in 2011. It’s difficult to predict how Kate will feel each day. Fortunately, she has an abundance of good and very good days, and on most days, more highs than lows.  Alzheimer’s, however, brings with it a host of challenges. The past 12-14 months have been among the most difficult ones of our marriage. Despite that, with only one day remaining before the new year begins, I can honestly say that I’ve never felt more upbeat than I do right now. And it all relates to Kate.

The biggest changes we faced this year really began just before Thanksgiving 2020 when Kate and I tested positive for COVID. Prior to that, she had been declining and showed the first signs of losing her mobility. I believe Covid pushed that ahead at least six months if not a little longer.

The experience was traumatic for her. She was in the hospital for eight days and bedridden for seven weeks after returning home. That meant everything we had to do for her had to be done while she was in bed. She didn’t like that and was verbally and physically combative whenever we had to move her.

We needed additional in-home care. For three years, we had in-home care four hours a day three days a week. We were fortunate to have had only two or three different caregivers during most of that time. When Kate got home from the hospital, we increased the care to 7-8 hours a day seven days a week. That involved more than ten different caregivers. That meant we didn’t have the kind of consistency I would have liked.

On top of that, we were scheduled to move to our retirement community in April. There was a lot to do in getting our house on the market and downsizing to a two-bedroom apartment. It’s a testimony to how easy my life has been that this was the most stressful period of my life.

Although our house sold quickly, and I was happy that we made the move, all of my normal routines were radically disrupted. That itself added a bit of stress. Fortunately, I began to develop new routines and to appreciate the various services that a community like ours offers. Life has certainly been easier here. It is also a very supportive community with an excellent staff that works to make the residents happy.

With the move, came a change in our caregivers. Now, we have one caregiver who is with us ten out of every fourteen days. She takes off every other weekend. Our only problem has been finding a person to fill in for her that weekend. We have another caregiver who comes every Friday. She’s been with us for more than four years. Unfortunately, I received word a few days ago that she is retiring and won’t be with us after today. On the whole, however, we have more consistency among our caregivers now than we have had in over a year. That’s been a good thing.

The best news I have about this year is Kate’s adjustment to her COVID experience and our move. At the time of our move, we were getting her out of bed a few days each week. That improved several weeks after the move, but she was still combative though less so than in the past. In another few weeks, we were getting her up every day.

That was followed by getting her out of the apartment a few times each week. We were out for a limited time and just strolled through the hallways and back home. Several times when the weather was ideal, we walked through the park that is on the grounds across the street from our building.

There are quite a few areas in our apartment and in the hallways of our buildings where we go from the floor to a carpeted area. Kate was frightened by the slightest bumps when we crossed them. As she began to feel more comfortable, we began to visit one of our cafes for ice cream in the afternoon. That is now almost a daily activity for us.

For a long time, I relied on carryout from the dining room for our evening meal. Then two or three months ago, we started eating in the dining room. That and our afternoon ice cream stop have become a very pleasant part of our day.

The best change by far has come in the past couple of months. Kate seems considerably more at ease than she has been since COVID a year ago. She is much more cooperative when we change her, dress her, and get her in and out of bed, her recliner, or her wheelchair.

She has also begun to respond to other residents when they speak to her. A few days ago as we were leaving the dining room, we saw four other residents. As we passed their table, Kate said, “How are you guys tonight?” Then she added, “What’s so funny over there?” Another night, the director of food services stopped at our table. He said, “How are you Mrs. Creighton?” Kate said, “I’m fine, but who are you?” On another occasion, one of the food service staff came to our table. She spoke to Kate a few minutes. When she said she was leaving for the night, Kate was sad and said, “I love you.”

Like so many other changes, I’ve tried to discover the cause. That’s always difficult. Most of the time I’m not sure. When I first noticed the change in her comfort level, I considered two possibilities. One is that it arises out of unknown changes that take place in her brain on a daily basis. For example, she can be at ease one moment and the next moment experiences a delusion that disturbs her.

The other possibility is that she has simply gotten used to life the way it is now. We have more consistency with our caregivers, and we follow a regular daily routine. As I suggested above, we started making gradual changes when she came home from the hospital. Although she’s never shown any sign that she recognizes we are living in a different home, the move was accompanied by significant changes. We continued to introduce her to new things and have now established a routine with which she has grown accustomed. At least, that’s what I believe, and for the moment, I’m sticking to it.

Apart from that, music continues to be very important to us, and our relationship is very strong. That doesn’t mean she always remembers my name and that I am her husband. It means that 90% of the time she recognizes me as someone familiar to her and someone she likes and trusts. Our relationship has never been stronger.

For all of these things, I am grateful and “feeling good” as we move to 2022.

Happy New Year to All.

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Ups and Downs While Living with Alzheimer’s

My last post was upbeat, and for very good reasons. Kate had had a string of very good days. I should be clear that her Alzheimer’s has not improved. Her memory is no better than it was. Nor is her aphasia. She still experiences delusions that sometimes cause her to be afraid or annoyed, and sometimes she has periods when she does not recognize me at all.

The big change was in the comfort she feels when we go about our daily routine. That includes getting her dressed and out of bed each day as well as the reverse process that occurs every evening. She is no longer physically or verbally combative with her caregivers and me during these moments. She is also less vocal when we take her across minor bumps in the hallways when we go for ice cream and dinner.

Overall, she’s been happier, and less afraid of everything that has bothered her in the past. The good times continued until two days ago. It may have started the afternoon before when she had an unusually grouchy spell and yelled at the caregiver and me. We got through that and dinner without any serious problems, but she was not as cheerful with friends we met during this time.

I wasn’t sure what we might be in for that night. Fortunately, she began to calm down as we got her ready for bed. It turned out we had a very good night. I think she was worn out.

The next day, she was awake around 9:00. It was one of those times when she didn’t recognize me at all. She was also obsessively talkative. As in the past, what she said was rooted in delusions and hallucinations. I thought it would help if I got in bed beside her and tried to comfort her. She wanted me to leave.

I left for a short time. When I returned, I turned on some music that I hoped would be soothing. I got in bed beside her with my laptop and began to check email. A few minutes later, she apparently recognized me because she reached out to take my hand. I was with her the rest of the morning. During that time, she talked continuously, often pointing to places in the room for me to see people or things that were not there.

I was with her when the caregiver arrived shortly after noon. I briefed her on the situation and went downstairs for lunch. When I returned, the caregiver had fed her and put her in her recliner. She was still talking. I tried to calm her for about thirty minutes before she had a doctor’s appointment at 2:00. She relaxed somewhat, but she didn’t stop talking.

When the doctor and his nurse arrived, I answered the door and stepped outside to explain what was going on and that Kate was very different than she had been for their previous appointments. Then we went inside where we went through the regular routine as well as we could while she talked. She never responded to them verbally.

The doctor asked if I had given her a sedative (Seroquel). I told him I hadn’t but would have if it were bedtime. I indicated my preference was to make an effort to relax her and play music that I know she likes. I thought, however, that it would be a night for the sedative.

After they left, I spent almost an hour on my knees beside her in the recliner. I listened to her and responded to her in a very calm manner. She became somewhat more relaxed but was far from normal.

The caregiver gave her an afternoon snack. She stop talking for a while but started again when she was finished. She was somewhat more relaxed. I experimented with a variety of music including “Bushel and a Peck” and “If You’re Happy and You Know It.” She continued to relax, and I asked if she would like some ice cream. She said she would, and we prepared to leave. As we went down the hall to the elevator, she became agitated. We returned to the apartment. I also chose to eat in the apartment rather than go to the dining room for dinner.

She calmed down for dinner. After that we still had time to sit on the balcony for a while before the caregiver left, but I thought it was better to get her into bed. That turned out to be a good idea. She was worn out and soon went to sleep.

She slept for about an hour while I watched the evening news. When she woke up, we watched two symphonies on YouTube. She was at ease the entire time. We talked very little, but it was clear that she was all right. It was a happy ending to a trying day.

Yesterday, she was very tired. We didn’t get ice cream, but she was alert for dinner. When we returned to the apartment, she went right to sleep and is still sleeping. We had a very good run for three weeks. I’m grateful for that and suspect we won’t have a repeat. I am, however, confident that we will have many more special moments in the days ahead.

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Some Days are Better Than Others, and Some are Very Special.

I’ve commented many times about Kate and her variations in mood and behavior. Many other caregivers report the same thing with their own loved ones. I’ve also heard stories about people who have been unresponsive for an extended time and suddenly experience a moment when they are more alert and talkative. Some families describe it as a miracle. Earlier this week, we experienced a moment like that.

First, let me provide a little background. Although I’m pretty good at accepting Kate’s unpredictability, I do get a little stressed when I make a commitment but am unsure how her mood might affect my plans.

Two weeks ago, our retirement community announced they are conducting video interviews with residents who would like to participate. The idea is to provide the residents and their families with a record of relevant aspects of their lives. Although they provide a list of questions the interviewer might ask, the format is not rigid. The residents or couples can modify or redesign the entire interview to suit their preferences. I liked the idea and was the first one to sign up. I created an interview focused on our marriage from our first date to the present under the title “Love, Discovery, and Adventure.” Our interview was Tuesday afternoon at 2:30.

Having set the appointment, I realized that I had also scheduled lunch at 12:45 to celebrate three anniversaries with my colleagues at the office. Two of them have been with me 40 years and the third 35.

In addition, the previous week I had been contacted by a nurse representing the insurance company that provides our long-term care insurance. Periodically, the company sends a nurse for an assessment interview to determine Kate’s eligibility for in-home care. She suggested three times last week, but I had conflicts for each one. She indicated that Saturday afternoon might be a possibility for her but would call me back. It turned out that didn’t work, and she suggested Tuesday at 10:30. I didn’t like the idea of having another commitment right before the other two, but I decided to accept it. That meant I was going to be distracted for all three of the day’s events. On top of that, I had no idea how Kate would do in the interview. Knowing that I needed to focus my attention on both commitments as well as my normal caregiving responsibilities, I felt a little stressed.

As so often happens, my concern was totally unnecessary. The appointment with the nurse went well. Sometimes the person assigned to make the visit tries to put Kate through the traditional dementia-related questions (Who is President? What is today’s date? Draw a clock showing that it is 2:00?) The past several visits I’ve requested the person not put her through this because she can’t do it and hasn’t been able to do so for years. This time the nurse said she felt it was unnecessary based on what I had told her about Kate.

Not long after the nurse left, our caregiver arrived, and I was off to our luncheon. That went quite well. Although we have worked together professionally more than thirty-five years, this was the first time for all of us to meet face-to-face since before the pandemic began in 2020. We had more to talk about than the time allowed.

Our video interview was icing on the cake. Kate was in a cheerful mood and more self-assured than usual. I told our interviewer that I would do most of the talking but would try to elicit some response from Kate. I won’t say she was talkative, but she was comfortable responding when I addressed her. In fact, she was the same way with the interviewer before and after the interview. Kate’s caregiver was in the room during the interview. She was as amazed as I. The entire process had been successful, and I am optimistic that the video will be something we can share with our children.

The rest of the day also went very well. We had a very pleasant dinner in the dining room, and we enjoyed our time together after the caregiver left.

It’s been a week, and Kate has had a streak of good days with special moments. I don’t have an explanation for these especially good times, but I will continue to savor them and be grateful.

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Update on Kate’s Talkative Days

After several posts between September 30 and October 5, Kate’s talkative days settled back into what had been our previous normal routine. That changed again this week.

On Monday, she was awake about 6:45. That changed my morning routine, but it was well worth it. I can’t recall her having a better day. She was far from wide awake, but her smile conveyed a cheerfulness that was to last until she went to sleep that night. I took care of her morning meds, something to drink, and her morning snack before the caregiver arrived, and I left for Rotary. I spent most of the morning beside her in bed and enjoyed every minute. We talked and enjoyed music videos on YouTube.

When I returned from Rotary and the grocery store, she, Adrienne, and I went out for ice cream. Since it’s not as hot as it was during the summer, we sat on a deck outside overlooking a beautifully landscaped area and remained there until going to the dining room for an early dinner.

It was a day when Kate seemed almost “unflappable.” The only things that seemed to trouble (bother? frighten?) her were a few bumps while in her wheelchair as we went out that afternoon. The only problem I encountered that day (and it’s a minor one) was that she stepped up her talkativeness at dinner and afterwards. At 9:30, I could see that she wasn’t ready to stop, and I resorted to Seroquel. I’m not sure how quickly it worked because she was still talking when I went to sleep. I awoke at 10:30, and she was out after having been up a long time.

I admit to having mixed emotions regarding my giving her a sedative to get her to sleep. Although she was quite talkative, she was relatively calm and certainly happy. Since she is quiet so much of the time, I really enjoy hearing her talk even though most of what she says makes little sense to me and is rooted in delusions and hallucinations. On the other hand, I don’t enjoy it as much when it encroaches on our normal bedtime. I’ve spoken with her doctor who says that the dose I am giving her is very mild, but I plan to speak with him again, probably at her next appointment in early November.

It was no surprise that she slept until noon on Tuesday and was tired the rest of the day. Her eyes were closed most of the time while she ate dinner. She perked up a little after dinner but went to sleep shortly after Adrienne left and slept through the night.

Yesterday, she was awake early and fully rested. Once again, she was cheerful, talkative, and unflappable. It was a day that easily matched the great day we had on Monday. Two highlights stand out. Both occurred on the deck outside the ice cream shop during the afternoon.

The first was quite a surprise. Adrienne feeds the ice cream to Kate but stepped inside to get a drink. Kate then picked up her spoon and scooped a bite of ice cream for herself. On several occasions, she has picked up food in her hands and eaten it (something we encourage), but this was the first time she had picked up a spoon or fork and fed herself. Ultimately, Adrienne took over. It was difficult for Kate to get more than a small bit of ice cream, but it was good to see her try.

A woman came out of her apartment onto her deck and down the stairs for an afternoon walk. We had spoken to her on one of our previous visits. This time I got up and introduced Kate, Adrienne, and myself. When she returned from her walk, I invited her to join us at our table.

We had a very pleasant conversation for the next twenty minutes or so. We were interested to know that, by chance, she had been given an apartment that was her mother’s forty years before. We discovered that she knows quite a few people at our church, and I knew her sister-in-law.

During our conversation, I was struck by the fact that Kate seemed to be picking up on some of the things we were saying. At one point, she stopped me and said, “You’re talking too fast.” When our neighbor told us goodbye, Kate told her goodbye. Like feeding herself the ice cream, this was a little thing, but it is not typical. Often, Kate doesn’t speak when someone speaks to her, so I am really pleased when she does.

Like so many other things, I can’t explain why she has such good days. It is as if she is simply in a good mood on some days and feels more secure than on other days. I only know that these days bring me a special sense of joy, something I didn’t expect at the time of her diagnosis 10 ½ years ago. That’s one more reason for me to be grateful.

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Back to a Typical Day

Kate’s first experience with incessant talkativeness occurred a week ago today. It was one of three days of extreme talking. Each day was followed by a day of rest. If the pattern had persisted, yesterday would have been a day of talking, but it wasn’t. Her caregiver and I were happy.

She awoke about 11:15 in line with what is normal for her. She was in a good mood although a little sleepy, again, something normal. I took care of her morning meds and gave her some juice and a snack before the caregiver arrived. Then, I left for Rotary.

When I returned, she had had lunch and was relaxed in her recliner. She was quite calm and not talking. When I approached her, she had a smile on her face. I told her I was glad to see her, and she said the same about seeing me.

They were giving flu shots that afternoon, and I decided to take advantage of the opportunity for both of us to be vaccinated. First, I went to see what it looked like and discovered there was about a 30-minute wait. I completed forms for both of us. Then I went back to tell the caregiver it might be better if they remained in the apartment until nearer the time for us to be called.

When I got back downstairs, they had moved more quickly than expected. I rushed back to the apartment and brought Kate and the caregiver with me. We were called in right away but had another 10-minute wait before someone came to give the shots. I didn’t think Kate would have any problems, but I wasn’t sure. I was relieved that it went smoothly.

We returned to the apartment for another thirty minutes before the dining room opened at 4:30. We have been going early and sitting in a corner of a room adjoining the main dining room. We’ve eaten in more public areas of the dining room in the past, but I prefer the more private area in case Kate should say or do something that might be disturbing to others. That hasn’t happened often, but her loud voice gets attention. As usual, she enjoyed every bite of her food and was in a pleasant mood the entire time.

After dinner, we spent almost an hour on the balcony. While we were there, Kate began talking. The caregiver and I both wondered if this might not be the start of something we couldn’t stop. Once in bed, however, she began to relax. That is not unusual. She has often rested an hour or more after getting into bed.

While she rested, I took a shower. Kate was awake when I finished, and I got in the bed beside her. For more than an hour, we lay there talking. We talked mostly about our relationship and how we felt about each other. It was another very special moment at the end of a day that had gone well and is more typical of our days than those of the past week.

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A Day of Rest

It’s too soon to say Kate has established a new pattern of behavior, but there was a bit of consistency the past few days. Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday she was very talkative for significant portions of the day. Tuesday was the most extreme. She talked almost non-stop from 8:30 in the morning until about 9:00 when I gave her a tablet of melatonin. That worked, but I gave her a sedative (Seroquel) on Thursday and Saturday nights.

It was no surprise that each of the days that followed her talkativeness and agitation she was very tired. She slept late and rested most of the afternoon as well. Yesterday was a good day of recovery. She was tired most of the day until dinner time. By then, she was quite rested, and we went to the dining room for dinner.

After the caregiver left, we relaxed in bed. I watched part of the Buccaneers/Patriots game with the sound muted and music playing for Kate. It was a welcome moment for the two of us after the past few days. I hope we find our way back to something a bit more normal in the upcoming week.

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More on Kate’s Talkativeness

For the third time in the past five days, Kate was unusually talkative yesterday. I’ve welcomed some of that. That has been especially true during the morning when she has waked up much earlier than usual. I’ve enjoyed spending that time with her. The bulk of her conversation has involved delusions and hallucinations, but she has been happy and seemed at ease. That was true during the entire day. During the afternoon, we went to the café for ice cream. After Kate had finished eating, we went out on the deck beside the café. It is shady in the afternoon, and the temperature was so pleasant that we spent an hour there.

As on previous days this week, the pace of her talking began to pick up. She talked constantly while we were on the deck. We went straight to the dining room for dinner. I was somewhat uneasy because Kate was talking so much and can be loud at times, but the meal captured her attention. She ate well and seemed relaxed.

Upon our return to the apartment, we got her ready for bed. She was very cooperative, something that has become the norm in recent weeks. She began to talk a little more after the caregiver left, but she was relatively calm. Over the course of the next hour and a half, the pace of her talking picked up. At 9:00, it was obvious that she wasn’t going to be ready for bed anytime soon. I mentioned that I was getting tired and would soon get ready for bed. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but she conveyed that she wasn’t ready at all.

I prefer not to use Seroquel unless I have to, so I got her a melatonin. I muted the sound of the TV and turned on some soft music she likes. Forty minutes later, she showed no signs of sleepiness. At 10:00, I crushed a tablet of Seroquel and gave it to her in a spoonful of yogurt. I’ve only used Seroquel four or five times, and it usually takes effect within twenty minutes. An hour later, she was still going strong. I gave her another Seroquel and turned on a YouTube video of Andre Rieu and his orchestra accompanied by a very large contingent (at least 50) of brass instruments playing a very soft rendition of “Nearer My God to Thee.” I hummed along with the music. For a few moments, Kate eased up on her talking. She picked right up when the music ended. I switched to a recording of “Edelweiss” and hummed along with that. She started humming too. She also began to relax. I turned out the lights, and she was asleep by 11:30, almost two hours later than usual.

As I prepare to upload this post, it is close to 10:00 a.m. the next morning. She slept through the night and has shown no signs of waking. If she follows the pattern of the past few days, she will probably be tired and will catch up on her rest today. I’m still not ready to make any predictions. What will be will be.

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Follow-up on the Two Preceding Posts

We had no problem with Kate’s incessant talking yesterday. She was quite tired. In fact, I wanted to take her for ice cream during the afternoon, but she preferred resting. She perked up a little at dinner but never displayed any of the agitation we observed on Tuesday and Thursday.

We had a very peaceful evening together watching music videos on YouTube. It was like the mid-week agitation had never occurred. No melatonin or Seroquel was needed, and I hope we won’t need them again anytime soon. I vote for “Never.”