Our lives now are a interesting mixture of good and bad things. As I have said in earlier posts, Kate has been getting up earlier the past few days. That was true again yesterday. For me, that is good news. It gives us a little more time together which I feel is especially important on the days we have a sitter. The flip side of that is that she has also been tired during the day. The past two days she has gone straight to bed upon returning home from lunch. I’m not sure how long she rested (slept?) on Wednesday, but yesterday it was almost two hours. She might have rested longer had I not waked her.
We went to Barnes & Noble where we had another one of those confusing times when she didn’t realize I am her husband. She was on her iPad. I was on my laptop. I reached over and put my hand on her arm. She said, “Are we friends?” I said, “Very good friends.” She gave me a skeptical look. At first, I thought she was playing with me, but it became clear that she was not. I said that we had been married 55 years. She looked surprised and said, “Let’s talk about this later.” That comment suggests that she expects us to be together even though she is unsure of who I am. It also suggests a certain comfort level in being with me. These moments tend to catch me off guard. My rational mind leads me to think that she either knows me or not, and that would cause her to behave in different ways. Instead, she acts like everything is normal. Then she says something that doesn’t match what I would expect. There is so much that I don’t understand.
I am just now beginning to understand that when she asks where we are “right now,” she often thinks we are out of town, almost always in her home town of Fort Worth. As we were coming home from lunch yesterday, she said, “Well, it’s been a nice trip.” On the way home from dinner last night, she said, “Where are we going to stay tonight?” I told her we were in Knoxville and would stay in our own house. She liked that. This confusion might account for the fact that she frequently picks up things to take with us when we leave the house. Often it is a tube of toothpaste and one or two toothbrushes. I have started suggesting that she won’t need them wherever we are going and might as well leave them at home. That has presented no problem. She is becoming very compliant. I suspect that she recognizes she gets confused and trusts me to keep her straight.
The change in her desire for help with her clothes has been dramatic in the past week. It was just a few days ago that she first asked for help with her bra. She has wanted help each day since. She was glad to hear that I have ordered new bras designed for seniors that fasten in the front rather than in the back. I’m not sure that will enable her to do it herself, but I thought it was worth a try.
Last night, we went to Casa Bella for opera night. It was another good evening. Kate expressed a good bit of enthusiasm after each song. Fortunately, the rest of the crowd did as well. She expresses her pleasure audibly during the music. It isn’t too loud. I doubt that anyone other than those sitting at the same table realize it, but I wonder if this could become a problem later on.
She went to bed right away after we got home. That is unusual and is an indication of how tired she was. This morning she got up to go to the bathroom shortly before 6:00. I got up when she came back to bed. As she got under the covers, she said, “Let’s not do this again.” I had no idea what she meant. When I went to the kitchen for breakfast, I noticed that she had not used our bathroom but the one off the laundry room. I am guessing that she forgot about our bathroom. That is not unusual. She has always used the other bathrooms more often than our own.
Despite all the confusion and the changes, we are still enjoying ourselves. I am amazed and happy. That is something I never expected this late in our journey.
