After our visit to Barnes & Noble yesterday, we went directly to dinner and then home. Kate’s bathrobe and extra shoes were still in the car at her feet on the passenger side. As she was getting out of the car, she used her hand signals to ask if she should leave the robe in the car. I told her I thought it would be better to take the robe and the shoes in the house.
Once inside she asked me if she should put on her night clothes. I told her that would be fine, that she could just relax until time for bed. She surprised me by putting on a night gown, something she has not been doing lately.
As usual, I turned on the PBS Newshour that I record each night and took my seat. Meanwhile, Kate picked up her iPad and sat in her chair to work jigsaw puzzles. When the news was over, I decided to put in a DVD with excerpts of her father’s home movies shot between 1932 and the mid-1940s. I had gotten it out to play for Kate a couple of days before, but she asked that I wait until later.
The original movies were filmed in 16 mm color, but, because of their age, the quality of the images had deteriorated significantly over time. One of Kate’s cousins who owned a photo shop in Fort Worth edited the film to make a 35-minute VHS tape when they were the latest way to store images. Then he invited Kate’s mother and father to his house where they were joined by one of Kate’s aunts to view the tape. During the viewing, he used a tape recorder to capture the comments made by these family members watching the movies for the first time in a number of years. Later he created a new video on which he dubbed the audio recording. Two or three years ago, I had that VHS video transferred to a DVD. That is what I played for Kate last night.
The video immediately captured her attention. She dropped the iPad to her side and watched the entire video from beginning to end. She was enraptured with the audio as well as the video. The voices of her mother and father along with her aunt and cousin came through clearly. It was exciting to hear Kate’s reactions. The film begins with her mother and father before they were married, events surrounding their marriage in Michigan, and her mother’s college graduation from TCU. From there it moved to Kate’s grandmother’s home where all the children and grandchildren gathered for lunch every Sunday after church. That was before Kate’s birth, but she saw lots of her cousins playing around the yard outside the family home. Of course, it included her grandmother and her aunts and uncles.
The final portion of the video focuses on Kate’s arrival in 1941 followed by her brother, Ken, in 1943. Although both of us have seen these movies on multiple occasions in the past, it’s been a while. I suspect Kate’s memory of them was very blurred. We both took interest in seeing her as an infant in her parents’ arms, playing in her crib, and playing with Ken and her cousins.
At the end of the video, Kate was in tears of joy. She kept commenting on it. She thanked me profusely for having played it. I can’t ever recall a time when she was so overcome with emotion. It was especially surprising to observe that she didn’t forget having seen the video right away. She sobbed off and on for about 45 minutes. She was still moved when she went to bed. I joined her, and she then did a repeat of the previous night. She talked a long time before going to sleep. She expressed her feelings about our marriage, our children, my getting to know her family before so many of them passed away, and overall how very fortunate we have been.
As much as I also enjoyed seeing the video, the most memorable part of the evening was knowing how much it meant to Kate. Priceless.
What a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing.