“It’s a New Day,” but I’m not “feeling good” this morning. About 7:15, the video cam alerted me that Kate was about to get up. I went to the bedroom to find her confused. I told her good morning and asked if I could help her. She said, “I don’t know. I don’t know what’s going on.” As in most of the other occurrences like this, she wasn’t having a panic or anxiety attack. She just looked puzzled about not knowing “what’s going on.” She was never able to say more than that. Based on past experience, I am sure it was waking up and not knowing where she is, why she is here, and who she is. She didn’t ask, but I gave her my name and hers and told her that she was in our house in Knoxville. I added that she was in her very own bed. She didn’t challenge any of that, but it didn’t seem to reduce her confusion.
She asked me what she should do. I told her that she usually liked to get up to go to the bathroom about this time. She asked where the bathroom was and asked if I would show her. I did and then took her back to bed. She was still puzzled. I told her I thought she just woke up and was groggy. I pointed out the window to our back yard. I reminded her of how often she looks out the window and comments on “all the green.” She seemed to recognize the yard. After getting in bed, she asked where I was going to be. I asked if she would like me to sit in my chair beside the bed. She said she would, and that is where I am right now. It sounds like she has gone back to sleep. There is a good chance that she will be fine when she wakes up again. I’ll just have to wait and see.
Moments like this always bring back memories of my mother. She used to say, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me.” That was when I first recognized how wrong people can be when they say things like “Well, at least she doesn’t know.” It was clear to me that my mother knew something was wrong with her. I can say the same thing about Kate. She understands and is disturbed by what is happening. I am grateful that this is not a constant pattern. Most of the time she simply asks where she is, who I am, and who she is without a hint of fear or anxiety. I think I handle the responsibilities of being her caregiver reasonably well. The part that is the biggest problem for me is seeing her when she is disturbed. I hope we are not in for much more of this.
