About 7:30 yesterday morning, I noticed on the video cam that Kate was sitting up in bed. She had stern look on her face. I asked if she wanted to go to the bathroom. She said no. I said, “What would you like to do? I would be glad to help.” She motioned me to sit in the chair beside the bed and said, “You start.” I said, “Start what?” She said quite firmly, “You know.” I told her I really didn’t and that maybe she had just had a dream about something. She was emphatic that she wasn’t dreaming. Again, she told me “to start.” I told her I wasn’t sure what she wanted me to say. She said, “Then why are you here?” That led me to take another approach. I told her my name and her name. Then I proceeded to tell her about our meeting and our courtship at TCU. I gave her a synopsis of our getting married, going to graduate school, jobs, having children, and the places we had lived right to the present. As I talked, she started smiling. Her mood began to change. When I got to the end of my story, I said, “We’ve been happily married for fifty-six years, and I love you very much.” She smiled and said, “I love you too.”
I gave her a hug and asked what she would like to do now. She said, “I don’t know.” I told her it was just 8:00 and that she usually liked to sleep a little longer. She told me that is what she wanted to do. I pulled back the cover, and she got back in bed. She slept until 10:00 when she got up for good. She was in a good mood and expressed no confusion at all. She was ready to go early enough that we were able to spend some time at Panera before going to lunch. I will never know what caused her to be irritated with me when she first woke up. I just hope it doesn’t happen again. If it does, I will probably take the same approach, that is, just talk about things that get her to think about the good times we have had.
