October 13, 2017 (5:08 p.m.)
Today was the first day that I did not announce to Kate that the sitter was coming. I just let Mary meet her as she was working outside. As I had hoped, there was no problem at all. I went out to let them know I was leaving. I also mentioned to Mary that Kate might want to go to Panera sometime and gave her money to buy what they wanted. Kate’s eyes brightened. She had a big smile on her face and said, “We can.” I started to tell Mary what bagel Kate likes, but Kate stopped me. Then in a very nice way she told Mary that I can be very controlling. I started back to the garage and Mary asked me to wait. She asked me to write down what Kate likes and put it on the island in the kitchen. I did.
I stopped the car as I drove down the driveway and told them I was leaving for the Y. Kate waved and said, “I’m in good hands.” I felt good.
In addition to the Y, I was able to stop by two shops where Kate used to buy most of her clothes. I was looking for a couple of new tops to take to North Carolina next week. I got one top at each place. Then I went to Whole Foods where I got a dish of mint chocolate chip ice cream and worked on this journal.
When I got home, Kate was resting. Mary told me they had been to Panera where Kate had a bagel. Mary said that Kate had remembered our phone number to give to the person taking their order. I was floored. This would have been the first time in several years that she had been asked for the number.
After Mary left, I walked into the bedroom where Kate was resting. I told her I had heard that they went to Panera. Kate said yes then added, “She is great.” This is working out.
