It’s been more than a month since my last post. That’s because I’ve been more occupied with things than usual. The most significant was an auto accident in January that resulted in my having to buy another car. I couldn’t locate the title of the old car and needed it to transfer the title to our insurance company. As so often happens, I ran into some complications that extended the amount of time I thought would be required. On top of that, my routine responsibilities have required more of me in recent weeks, as I find myself more involved in activities within our residential community.
The additional stress this has brought has been countered by Kate’s improvement over the past year. I have come to expect and be rewarded with “Happy Moments” every day, and we have had an abundance of those during the past week.
The first came at dinner last Sunday night. She was very responsive to almost everyone who spoke to her. I was particularly pleased when she replied to another resident who speaks to her almost every day. Each time she eagerly awaits a response, but Kate rarely replies. This time she responded beautifully. Not everything Kate said was understandable, but she did respond. Before we left the dining room, Kate spoke to several other residents as well. Everyone was as surprised and delighted as I was.
We enjoyed another Happy Moment Monday night. She was in a very good mood that afternoon. It continued after her shower and as we prepared her for bed. Kate was very talkative after the caregiver left, and I got in bed beside her. It was the happiest moment of the day. We talked for almost an hour before I decided to take my shower. I felt uncomfortable about leaving while we were both having such a good time, but I did it anyway. By the time I got out of the shower, her mood had changed. She was no longer interested in conversation, but we had a wonderful time before it ended.
During the balance of the week, Kate has been quiet in the morning and early afternoon but more lively and cheerful for the remainder of the day. I’m still unable to predict her behavior from one moment to the next; however, I have come to count on Happy Moments at some point in every day. That keeps me upbeat, and I am grateful.
Addendum: March 9, 2023
The day after my previous post was another day punctuated with Happy Moments. Kate was awake early (8:15 am) and very cheerful. That is very unusual for her. She would typically awaken after 10:00 and be in a more neutral mood. I went through my usual routine in which I remind her that we met in college, fell in love, married, have two children and that we’ll have our sixtieth wedding anniversary in May. Normally, she wouldn’t react at all. Sometimes she smiles. This time she laughed.
She soon went back to sleep but was beginning to wake up at 11:00 when the caregiver arrived. She regained her cheerful mood and said a few words to the caregiver while helping Kate get dressed. At one point, she said, “I love you” to the caregiver.
She was quiet once we got her into her chair for breakfast. That lasted the entire time while I attended my weekly Rotary meeting. When I returned, she displayed little or no interest in me. That is unusual but does happen once in a while.
It wasn’t until we were having ice cream that she began to regain her cheerfulness. That increased at dinner. She smiled a lot and talked to our caregiver and to a couple of the food staff. Her best moments of the day occurred during and after her shower that evening. She was talkative and laughed about a number of things. That mood continued after the caregiver left and until she fell asleep around 8:30.
Yesterday and again this morning, she was awake early and happy. I can’t predict what the day will be like, but the experience of the past few weeks makes me optimistic that she will have another good day.
