When Kate was ready for Panera this morning, she was carrying a night gown, a pair of pants, and a pair of shoes and socks. To be clear, these were in addition to those she was wearing. On the way to the car, she picked up a baseball cap and took it with her. She left the clothes in the car but brought the cap inside with her. She hasn’t put it on. It is just sitting on the table.
Yesterday she had an extra pair of shoes with her. I asked if she were going to take them with us. She said, “I might want to change.” Once in the car, she did change. The others are still there. She and I forgot to take them in last night. Now we have two extra pair of shoes.
There are so many things like this that those of us without dementia can’t understand, but they must make sense to her.
Postscript at 2:30 p.m.
I am at Whole Foods waiting for Kate who is getting her monthly facial. I thought I would add something to my earlier post. We came back to the house after lunch. We had just enough time for a short break before leaving for the spa. When I went to the back of the house to see if she were ready, I noticed that she had put on another top over the one she was wearing earlier. She had a pair of underwear in one hand and another top in her other hand. She held the underwear up and looked at me as if to say, “Should I take these with me?” I told her I thought she could leave them. Then she held up the top. I told her I didn’t think she would need that either. She left both of them without questioning me at all. Apparently, she was just wondering if she should take them. I answered her question, and that was that. What will remain unknown is what made her wonder about that in the first place. So many mysteries.
